I have to say, since day one of being diagnosed with cancer people go out of their way to tell me how great I look.   One of the first things out of peoples mouths when they see me is a compliment on my appearance.   You would think I would find it flattering, but I find it to be rather annoying.  When I was first diagnosed I got "you look so great, I can't believe you have cancer."  Then when my hair fell out I heard "you are so pretty, even without hair, you know not many people can pull that off."  OR "you don't even look sick, you look so healthy and alive." 

Now that I am "recovered," I hear "You look so great!"  "Your hair looks so great like that."  "You look better with short hair than long hair."  "You should keep your hair this short because it suits you"
BLAH BLAH BLAH

Do they think these words make me feel better?  Do they think that I like hearing how wonderful I looked bald, or now how great my hair looks short?  Do they think that by saying I look good can imply that I must feel good?  Do they think that bringing constant attention to my appearance and how it has changed is a pleasant reminder of what has happened?  Do they think that I may not like my hair short?  Do they think I wouldn't in a heartbeat have my hair be long the way it was before chemo?  Do they think that their opinion of how I look means any thing to me at this point because HELLO I have had lots of shit on my plate and their compliments don't help!!!

NO, because you know what?  They don't think before they speak.  People should really listen to themselves more often.